expressed many times we do not want instead of what it is. Or we complain about what someone else does instead of saying what we want to do.
The relationship between two people, communication is essential. To enrich us that communication is healthy that is based on dialogue and not just complaints and criticisms. When we protest against another person by listing everything that does or does not say we're just expressing our anger. This can serve as a download. But if you are looking for agreement and dialogue, a good way is to state what we want.
For this is good to be calm, knowing what we want and put it. It is not the same as saying "Never water the plants!" with anger and deep voice of complaint, saying " I want to take turns watering the plants" . The second option is much more difficult because it involves displaying honestly desires and needs, but which we will discuss and agree (or not).
The complaint does not expose us, is more defensive and does not need to be honest with what looking for. I raise this thing or I need another can cost more, especially if we find it normal. It can also happen that the caller is unwilling or unable to satisfy our desires. Can answer disagrees with take turns watering the plants or do not know how or who does not care if you have plants to have to water them. Then we plunge into a sincere dialogue to find a solution satisfactory to both parties. Assuming that's what we want.
Now if we really care is to protest, if you only motivates us to enumerate all the things the other person does as expected ... we can continue complaining ...
How are the things? "Protests and explain what you want?
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