constantly hear people demanding changes to the other but unable to decide to change his position an inch. have to understand, must change, must do this or that claim . Perhaps forget that other people concerned are free to decide what to do and will do whatever they want or what they can.
We kick for years claiming that Jane Doe / or act as we decided it must act. But our desires do not have to be commands or parameters another person. We may seem obvious that the natural (for us) is to act in this or that way. But the other person can decide not to do so. So this is where we have the option to stop pretending to drive the motivations of others as if they were marionettes whose strings are ours. It's time to ask what will I do in this situation. And we choose to start to solve in the area where we can, ie that of our actions, not the other.
How difficult for us to accept that others are free to act as they see fit. And we decide what to do with our own actions depending on the situation.
told me a story about a woman who wanted his lover to take him flowers. Required so, and did nothing but complain and suffer constantly for not receiving flowers. So much energy put into their lack floral note that blinded. Was not able to see your options. For example: stop expecting flowers or regalarlaselas it, or go to buy, or request them to someone else, or leave your lover and find someone who did take them, or acknowledge that it had decided to love someone who does not give flowers (yes, every day would hug and said he loved her, but gave her flowers.)
Would you stay attached to your ideas about how others should behave? Or try to see what you can do with what happens?
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